Pastor Bolaji Idowu of Harvesters International Christian Center (HICC) has cautioned against dating while jobless, believing that financial instability can limit one’s options and distort what they find attractive in a partner. 

Speaking to his congregation, he said relationships formed during times of financial struggle may be driven by necessity rather than genuine love.

According to him, when individuals eventually gain financial stability, they may realise that the relationship wasn’t truly fulfilling. 

Idowu attributed this to a “crumbs mentality,” where people settle for less than they deserve due to financial limitations. 

He encouraged individuals to shift their thinking towards abundance, prioritising personal growth and financial stability before entering into relationships.

He said: “Don’t date when you are jobless. There are some relationships that are attractive not because they are attractive, it’s because you have no money. 

“When you have your own money, you will be surprised how you should have not fallen in love with some people. It’s not love induced; it was hunger induced. 

“Never negotiate on an hungry stomach, youl will get a bad deal. Crumbs mentality – when you are poor, small things satisfy you easily. One of the signs of crumbs mentality is that you settle for less so easily. 

“Shift in your thinking. I’m saying you need to think in abundance. I hang around people and when I hear the things that they used to talk about – ‘if I can just travel to America’. How can traveling to America be a goal.”