Fatherhood is not just a biological event; it is a lifelong responsibility that extends beyond conception. Unfortunately, in Nigeria, the trend of men denying responsibility for pregnancies is worrisome. The recent scandal involving Nigerian music sensation Asake and his father has once again brought this issue to the fore, sparking conversations about the responsibilities of men toward their offsprings and the moral obligations of children to their parents.

In many cases, men walk away from their responsibilities, leaving women to bear the burden of raising children alone. These children, often brought up in hardship, grow to become successful individuals. Yet, the cycle of neglect continues as some of these children, in turn, neglect their absentee fathers. This vicious cycle is one that demands urgent attention because it speaks to the breakdown of family values and moral responsibility in our society.

Without a doubt, the controversy surrounding Asake’s father is not an isolated incident. The story has been met with mixed reactions, with many Nigerians expressing disappointment in the singer’s apparent estrangement from his father. However, upon deeper reflection, it raises fundamental questions: Should a child care for a father who abandoned him at birth? Should a father expect love and support from a child he once denied?

Asake’s case mirrors countless similar stories in Nigeria, where men irresponsibly deny paternity, leaving women to shoulder the responsibility of parenthood alone. The consequences of such actions are dire, affecting the emotional and psychological well-being of the child. Many children grow up feeling unwanted and rejected, leading to resentment toward their fathers. Consequently, when they achieve success, they see no reason to acknowledge or support the very men who once discarded them.

In fact, the denial of paternity is not a new phenomenon in Nigeria. Countless women have shared heartbreaking stories of being abandoned during pregnancy, left to raise children on their own. Some men deny responsibility outright, while others, under the influence of family pressure or societal stigma, shy away from acknowledging their children.

This issue is exacerbated by the lack of legal frameworks that hold men accountable for their responsibilities. Unlike in some Western countries where child support laws ensure that fathers contribute financially to the upbringing of their children, Nigeria lacks strict enforcement mechanisms to curb this menace. This legal loophole emboldens irresponsible men to continue this reckless behavior without facing consequences.

Children who grow up without the presence of their fathers often face emotional and psychological struggles. The absence of a father figure can lead to low self-esteem, difficulty in forming relationships, and even behavioral problems. Many of these children grow up harboring deep-seated resentment against their absentee fathers.

Beyond personal grievances, the societal impact of this trend is equally alarming. A society where fathers abandon their responsibilities fosters a culture of irresponsibility and broken homes. This ultimately affects the moral fabric of the nation, leading to an increase in crime, social vices, and a general sense of neglect among the younger generation.

While it is easy to place sole blame on irresponsible fathers, mothers and society at large also have a role to play. Some women knowingly get involved with men who have a track record of abandoning their children. Others fail to take legal steps to demand accountability from these men.

Society, on its part, must stop enabling men who engage in paternity denial. Rather than shielding such men or making excuses for them, communities should begin to hold them accountable. Churches, traditional institutions, and even employers can play a role in ensuring that men who father children take responsibility for them.

While the anger of children abandoned by their fathers is understandable, it is also important to stress that children must not completely eschew their moral responsibility toward their parents. No matter the circumstances of birth, there is an African cultural expectation that children take care of their parents in old age. Forgiveness should be encouraged, as resentment only breeds bitterness and continues the cycle of emotional suffering.

Successful children should be cautious not to adopt the very neglect they suffered. The ability to rise above personal grievances and extend care to an estranged parent, even if minimal, is a sign of strength and growth. This does not mean blindly accepting toxic relationships, but rather, ensuring that bitterness does not cloud the opportunity to set a better example for future generations.

It is time for Nigerian men to take fatherhood seriously. Bringing a child into the world is not just about biology; it is about emotional, financial, and psychological commitment. Men must understand that denying a child today might lead to severe consequences in the future, not just for the child but for themselves as well.

Legal reforms are necessary to ensure that men who abandon their children are held accountable. Nigeria must implement and enforce child support laws that compel men to contribute to the upbringing of their children. DNA testing should also be made more accessible and affordable to address paternity disputes fairly.

At the family level, parents must begin to instill in their sons the values of responsibility and accountability. Fatherhood is a privilege, not just a duty, and men must be made to understand that their actions have lasting consequences.

On the part of children, those who have suffered abandonment should seek healing and closure. Therapy, counseling, and support groups can help individuals navigate the trauma of absentee fathers. Forgiveness, though difficult, can be a powerful tool in breaking the chain of generational pain.

The Asake scandal is just one of many stories that highlight the growing trend of men abandoning their paternal duties and the resultant estrangement between fathers and their children. It is a wake-up call for Nigerian men to take responsibility and for successful children to embrace the path of forgiveness.

A society thrives when families function effectively. The neglect and abandonment of children must stop, and at the same time, children who achieve success despite hardships must not fall into the same trap of neglecting their parents. By addressing these issues holistically, Nigeria can begin to mend the broken bridges of family and instill values that promote responsibility and care. The time to act is now.

The case of Ushie Uguamaye, a National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) member, facing alleged threats for criticizing President Tinubu’s administration highlights a concerning pattern of suppressing dissent in Nigeria. Her experience mirrors the ongoing controversy surrounding Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan, further reinforcing fears that the government is actively silencing critical voices rather than addressing the legitimate grievances of its citizens.

This government continues to disgrace itself nationally and globally, oblivious to the reality that we now live in an interconnected digital age where nothing remains hidden. Every act of repression, every abuse of power, and every silencing attempt is instantly broadcasted worldwide. They fail to grasp that control over narratives has shifted—people no longer rely solely on state-controlled media, and information spreads faster than censorship can contain it. America, Britain, France, Canada, and other world powers are watching, and no government can escape international scrutiny anymore.

Freedom of Speech Under Attack

Uguamaye’s viral TikTok video did not contain hate speech or incitement to violence—it was an expression of frustration over Nigeria’s economic hardship and poor governance. In her video, she simply said, “Tinubu, you are a terrible president.” This was not a coup attempt, nor was it a call for anarchy—it was a cry of frustration, a sentiment shared by millions of Nigerians struggling under rising costs, unemployment, and a declining standard of living.

Yet, instead of engaging with her concerns, the response from NYSC officials was intimidation and threats. Amnesty International Nigeria’s condemnation of the threats against her serves as a reminder that freedom of speech is a fundamental right, enshrined in the Nigerian Constitution and upheld by international law. When government agencies such as the NYSC resort to coercion rather than dialogue, it highlights a growing and dangerous trend of authoritarian governance.

The world is not blind. Nigerian leaders may think they can silence their people in isolation, but international watchdogs, human rights organizations, and foreign governments are watching. The more they suppress voices, the more their actions become global headlines, painting Nigeria as a country that fears criticism rather than embracing democratic debate.

Government’s Missteps and the ‘Streisand Effect’Rather than defusing the situation through dialogue, NYSC officials allegedly sought to pressure Uguamaye into deleting her video. However, their intimidation tactics backfired, amplifying her voice and drawing national and international attention. This is a classic example of the “Streisand Effect”—where attempts to suppress information lead to even greater public awareness.

In today’s world, social media ensures that no injustice goes unnoticed. The era of backdoor repression, where government officials could stifle dissent in silence, is long gone. Instead of learning from past mistakes, the administration continuously exposes itself to public embarrassment by failing to acknowledge that suppression only strengthens resistance.

A Pattern of Silencing Women

The parallels between Uguamaye’s case and that of Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan are striking. Akpoti-Uduaghan was suspended from the Senate shortly after publicly accusing Senate President Godswill Akpabio of sexual harassment. Now, Uguamaye faces threats for speaking out against government failures. Just as Akpabio attempted to suppress Natasha, we now see an NYSC official allegedly calling and threatening Uguamaye, attempting to coerce her into silence.

The tactics remain the same—intimidation, manipulation, and the abuse of institutional power to subdue female voices that challenge the system. Nigerian women who dare to question authority are met with hostility, threats, and systemic efforts to erase their voices. These patterns reflect deep-seated misogyny within governance structures—structures that view women as threats when they refuse to conform to silent obedience.

The government has not learned its lesson. Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan has already taken Nigeria’s suppression of women’s voices to the global stage at the Inter-Parliamentary Union (IPU) in New York, exposing its tactics to international scrutiny. Now, this young woman—part of a fearless digital generation—may take it even further. Unlike previous generations, she has the full power of social media and international advocacy at her fingertips. Nigeria’s leadership is making the same mistake again, failing to recognize that the suppression of voices only makes them louder.

The Role of International ScrutinyWith Amnesty International and other human rights organizations weighing in, Nigeria’s government is under increasing global pressure to uphold democratic principles. If Uguamaye’s case gains further traction, she may even take her grievances to international platforms such as the Inter-Parliamentary Union (IPU) or the United Nations, just as Akpoti-Uduaghan did.

The international community is no longer a passive observer—global human rights groups, diplomatic bodies, and foreign governments are all closely monitoring Nigeria’s response to dissent. The country’s image is deteriorating on the world stage, as repression continues to overshadow any claims of democratic progress. The government’s actions not only weaken its credibility but also reinforce the perception that Nigeria is governed by leaders who fear accountability.

The psychologist in me urges Nigerian leadership: Learn. Learn before it is too late. Repression is not governance. Silencing voices is not strength. Every time you try to hide the truth, it will find its way to the global stage, exposing you to greater humiliation. If you believe suppressing a young woman’s voice will make her disappear, you have gravely misunderstood the modern world. The more you suppress, the more defiant people become. Natasha globalized your oppression at the IPU—Ushie, from a fearless digital generation, may take it even further.

The Tinubu Administration’s Dilemma

President Tinubu’s administration now faces a critical choice: continue down the path of repression or embrace a more democratic approach by engaging with dissenting voices constructively.

A competent and confident leadership would recognize the growing dissatisfaction among citizens and seek to engage with them. Instead, this administration appears to believe that repression is a sustainable strategy in the digital age. It is not. Suppressing critics only fuels discontent, fosters resentment, and damages Nigeria’s international reputation.

Rather than allowing NYSC officials to intimidate Uguamaye, the administration should consider inviting her for a dialogue, listening to her grievances, and addressing the concerns she raised in her video. Doing so would demonstrate maturity, empathy, and a commitment to democratic ideals. Unfortunately, the government continues to opt for force rather than understanding, deepening public disillusionment with its leadership.

Conclusion: A Call for Institutional Accountability

The Nigerian government must come to terms with an inescapable truth: in a democracy, the suppression of voices does not erase dissent—it magnifies it. Threatening individuals like Ushie Uguamaye for expressing frustration or Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan for speaking out against sexual harassment does not restore order; it exposes the fragility of leadership. Silencing criticism does not mask failures; it confirms them. True governance is not about control—it is about courage. It is about addressing real concerns, not punishing those who raise them.

President Tinubu, you always say you asked for this job. That is true, sir, but leadership is not just about assuming power—it is about managing it wisely. Many under your administration are not helping you. They are acting recklessly, targeting women, abusing institutional authority, and pulling your leadership into a vortex of controversy that diminishes your legacy. You may not have personally directed these actions, but history will not distinguish between what you ordered and what was done under your watch. The world is watching, and in an era where digital footprints are eternal, judgment is swift and lasting.

When Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan was threatened for daring to expose sexual harassment, it sent a dangerous message that the system protects predators and punishes survivors. Now, Ushie Uguamaye is facing intimidation simply for voicing an opinion. These are not isolated incidents—they are symptoms of a deeper cultural resistance to accountability. This is no longer just about Nigeria. This is about the global perception of your administration. It is about whether the world sees Nigeria as a country that respects democratic values or one that stifles them.

Sir, I urge you to pause. I hope you are checking your blood pressure, prioritizing your health, and reflecting on the weight of this moment. Even your own daughter—whether by coincidence or conviction—has taken a stand for these women. If those closest to you can recognize the problem, why do so many within your administration continue to behave as though accountability is an option rather than an obligation? Leadership is not about silencing critics—it is about proving them wrong through decisive action, ethical governance, and a commitment to justice.

As a psychologist, I say again: Learn. Learn before your suppression of voices becomes the very thing that dismantles your authority. Learn before the culture of fear you permit today turns into the resistance you cannot contain tomorrow. The world is no longer silent, and neither are the people you seek to suppress.

The paths of two legends lately crossed at Baze University. The first was an educationist, entrepreneur, and scholar known as Sen. Datti Baba-Ahmed, and the second was a scholar, journalist, writer, and TV presenter named Dr. Reuben Abati. The two are in their fifties, although the former is midway, while the latter races to sixty in a few months. Both are notable achievers, brilliant in their endeavours and often an eleven on a scale of one to ten on their beats. Not unexpectedly, they crossed paths on a typical academic turf at the upbeat Baze University, Abuja’s first and fourteenth-anniversary lecture.

Datti Baba-Ahmed imagined Baze University when he was about age thirty-five. He had been up and about before then as a management and research consultant and a scholar after a PhD. at the Ivy League University of Westminster, with a foray into the legislature. Tales had it that he was hardly taken seriously by those in the audience on his plans. The reason was that private universities were then often the brainchild of more senior citizens or faith-based organisations, deeply rooted in fortune and finance and firm in institutional features. Datti Baba-Ahmed was, therefore, going to dare where the elders trod.

He stuck to his guns and guts, pulling through reductionist advisory barriers, conscious and unconscious nitpicking reproofs, and birthed Baze at about thirty-nine. With a license at hand, a sprawling space, and an echo away from the Abuja City centre, his experiment still looked like a joke. However, fourteen years later, the university now sits at a commanding height of fame, bursting with enthusiastic learners and a burgeoning club of knowledge producers and sharers. Eleven convocation ceremonies after, nine faculties, and about a hundred programmes on song at both the undergraduate and postgraduate levels, it was just right to create a stage to stimulate thought on national issues and mark a remarkable feat.

Sen. Baba-Ahmed testifies: “It is an honour to celebrate fourteen years of excellence, innovation, and academic distinction at Baze University, a journey rooted in the belief that education is a powerful tool for national transformation. From humble beginnings to becoming a beacon of educational excellence, the university has consistently shaped minds, nurtured talents, and produced graduates ready to impact society positively. The presence of Dr. Reuben Abati, a distinguished journalist and intellectual, highlights the critical role of education in fostering leadership and national progress.”

Enter Reuben Abati. Dr Abati was a regular university lecturer in Ogun State until he joined the elite editorial board of the then inimitable The Guardian Newspaper. That board then paraded the leading thinkers in the land, to wit, Olatunji Dare, Lade Bonuola, Femi Kusa, Okey Ikechukwu, Yemi Ogunbiyi, and others. He quickly passed as the youngest with a groundbreaking doctoral degree from Ibadan. However, that was only in his biological age, not ideation and perspicacity. He showed this in his double barrel columns, one on Fridays and the other on Sundays, where he regularly captured social and political essences in stimulating inks atop power prose.

He was reputed as a shaper, a repository, and a surveyor of goings-on, with a magisterial voice on contexts. He would later become a presidential spokesperson and then a TV presenter. Every morning as a presenter, Abati has arguably upped the ante in real-time analysis, in the reflection of researched thoughts, the showcasing of balance, and the pattern of learnedness in the narrativization and examination of issues. His inclination to present a case, in advance of analysis, syncs with the textbook protocol of editorialising, just as the desire to give the audience their rightful window, the outlet to make up their minds, and form their opinion, from a presenter’s discussion. Channels TV Dr. John Momoh, a veritable Chevening Scholar, has been an apostle of the transmission genre. It is expositional, rather than impositional, inclusive, rather than exclusive, in addition to liberalising ratiocination.

With his wife, the ravishingly beautiful Mrs. Kikelomo Atanda Owo-Abati also in the audience, Abati mounted the podium on the back of his impressive pedigree, speaking on the seminal topic of “Leadership in a Disruptive Era: Ethics, Accountability, and the Future of Governance in Nigeria.” His intervention came after the critical opening of the ceremony by the university vice-chancellor, renowned educationist, former permanent secretary in multiple federal ministries, and professor of Consumer Science, Professor Jamila Shu’ara.

Professor Shu’ara paid homage to those who powered the university dream prior, concluding with worthy regard to the ultimate visioner, Sen. Baba-Ahmed. Read her “In just 14 years, Baze University has emerged as a beacon of academic excellence and innovation under the visionary leadership of its founder, Senator Datti Baba-Ahmed. From its humble beginnings, the university has witnessed remarkable growth, expanding into nine dynamic faculties that offer a wide array of cutting-edge programmes tailored to meet the evolving demands of the global landscape.”

She added “This strategic expansion underscores a steadfast commitment to nurturing intellectual rigour, fostering creativity, and producing globally competitive graduates. Establishing a world-class, standard hospital further exemplifies this transformative vision, positioning Baze University as a hub for academic pursuit and a centre of medical excellence and community service. The university’s trajectory is a witness to Senator Baba-Ahmed’s dedication to advancing higher education in Nigeria, creating an institution that continues to set new benchmarks in quality, innovation, and societal impact.”

Dr. Abati thereafter began saluting Baba-Ahmed, whose contribution can be underscored with regards to “how he has dedicated himself to the task of service by giving back to his own country and helping in the education industry to build the same country that nurtured him, by devoting time and resources to the empowerment of the younger generation through knowledge and skills. I salute also the diligence and commitment of all the men and women, who in various ways have joined this enterprise of building young persons into better men and women, providing an enabling environment for the flowering of the human spirit and the ideal of the university.”

He then pontificated with philosophic confidence: “The entire trajectory of human survival is on the production of knowledge, epistemology and adaptability, and as man learns anew, he strengthens his capacity to live. The significant burden that man faces is that the more he learns, the more he sees that he still needs to know. In the endless search for knowledge, he expands his horizons. Man, inexorably, realises that he is not the wonderful creature that he thinks he is, but a gnat, a small part of the Cosmos, a dot in God’s design, a work in motion, who needs to adapt and innovate, reinvent himself, to remain alive and relevant in the larger canvas of things. We keep learning to live, and the university, as a place of learning, stands at a critical pathway in this process.”

Zeroing in on Nigeria, the writer stressed that Nigeria’s governance challenges demand urgent and comprehensive reforms from all sectors of society. “Transformative leadership, institutional strengthening, and ethical decision-making are crucial for the nation’s stability and prosperity. Policymakers must prioritise evidence-based decisions, long-term goals, and public participation, while political leaders should embody integrity and place national interests first. Civil servants must uphold professionalism, and citizens must actively hold leaders accountable. Ethical leadership is critical to addressing the nation’s socio-economic issues, including poverty and unemployment, and requires transparency and responsibility.”

His summary: “Reforms should include judicial independence, enhanced anti-corruption efforts, and digital innovations like e-governance to improve service delivery. Citizen engagement should be encouraged primarily through media, civil society, and academia. Leadership recruitment must prioritise merit, proven ability, and service over corruption and entitlement. Only through a collective effort can Nigeria establish a governance system that is transparent, inclusive, and responsive to its people’s needs. The future of Nigeria’s governance depends on committed reform now.”

No doubt some excellent submission from Abati, who graduated as the best overall student at the University of Calabar, where he earned his Bachelor of Arts degree, and furthered his education by obtaining a Bachelor of Laws (LL. B) from the Lagos State University (LASU) and a Master of Arts (M.A.) from the University of Ibadan. He also earned a Master’s in International Law and Diplomacy (MILD) from the University of Lagos after his doctorate (Ph.D.) from the University of Ibadan. Abati is a fellow of the Nigerian Guild of Editors (FNGE) and the Nigerian Institute of Management (FNIM), with an Honorary Fellowship from the Nigeria Academy of Letters. He was Hubert H. Humphrey Fellow in Journalism, a prestigious programme that further honed his expertise in the field. His appearance at Baze was one icing, with more to come, for him, Sen. Datti Baba-Ahmed and Baze University, a typical case of morning yet on the day of the increase. Over.

• Abiodun Adeniyi is a professor of communication and registrar, Baze University.

Former President Olusegun Obasanjo has criticised the new minimum wage of N70,000 which was approved for workers by President Bola Tinubu last year.

Obasanjo has claimed it is not enough to cover their basic needs, including transportation, food, and housing.

The former President also said labour leaders have betrayed workers by prioritising personal interests over collective welfare.

“That is the situation in Nigeria in the third decade of the 21st century.

“The minimum wage does not even cover transportation costs for some workers, let alone food, housing, and family upkeep,” Obasanjo wrote in his newly released book, “Nigeria: Past and Future”.

Obasanjo also claimed labour leader are more interested in pursuing personal interests.

“Because of their political ambitions, most union leaders are ineffective compared to the founding fathers’ expectations.

“The workers thereby become victims of selfish leaders who use their positions to achieve political heights.

“Rather than negotiate in the interest of the workers, they do sabre-rattling and they are called into the room and money in large amounts is stuffed into their hands and they keep quiet.

“That has been the case since 2015. And, if anything, it is going from bad to worse,” Obasanjo added.

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Former Vice President Atiku Abubakar and former presidential candidate of the Labour Party’s Peter Obi have expressed support for Lagos-based corps member Ushie Ushie Rita Uguamaye, popularly known as Raye, following her viral video criticizing the Federal Government’s policies.

Raye had gained widespread attention after condemning President Bola Tinubu’s administration over the rising cost of living. 

She also alleged that some National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) officials threatened her over her remarks on the country’s economic situation.

However, Atiku and Obi praised Raye, calling her a brave young woman who deserves support rather than condemnation.

Atiku who wrote on X, said: “Raye embodies the spirit of a new generation of women who champion the ideals of popular participation and unwavering advocacy in the political sphere. I deeply admire her boldness and wisdom—her fearless resolve to speak truth to power, undeterred by the weight of opposition.

“She follows in the footsteps of formidable trailblazers like Gambo Sawaba, Funmilayo Ransom-Kuti, Margaret Ekpo, and countless other women who have stood resolute in defense of the common good.

“Rather than being met with hostility, Raye deserves encouragement and support. She is a shining emblem of the Nigerian youth—a testament to the long-held promise that the leaders of tomorrow are already among us, ready to shape a better future.”

For Obi, Raye’s experience “highlights a troubling trend in our nation—one where voices of reason and truth are met with intimidation rather than dialogue and engagement”.

The former Anambra Governor said the NYSC member’s experience is also “not isolated”.

“I, too, have been subjected to threats for daring to offer constructive suggestions and comments. I now face daily intimidation, harassment, and name-calling simply for expressing solution-based views on government policies. Such actions are antithetical to the principles of democracy. A government that silences its citizens is not democratic or one that is subject to accountability and good governance and is most often corrupt,” Obi wrote on his X handle.

He called on President Bola Tinubu’s government to “reflect deeply on its approach to dissent and recognize that constructive criticism is a cornerstone of democratic progress.

“To all patriotic Nigerians: Our nation’s future and development depend on our collective courage to speak out against misgovernance, injustice, and intimidation,” the LP presidential candidate for the 2023 election said.
“Do not let fear stifle your voice. Stand firm, support one another, and continue to advocate for Nigeria we all envision—a nation where freedom of speech is sacrosanct, and leadership is accountable to the people, especially in critical areas such as education, healthcare, and poverty alleviation.

“A just and prosperous Nigeria should be one where people like Raye are encouraged to speak out about the challenges they face, while those in government take urgent action to address these issues.”